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Tuesday, July 20, 2010

Know Thy Name

whats your last name?Name is a fence and within it you are nameless. ~Samuli Paronen


What's in a name? That which we call a rose By any other name would smell as sweet.~William Shakespeare, Romeo and Juliet


Sitting in office on a very lazy Friday morning, I got to realize how unfortunately racist some of us Indians are. At times, Office is like the family scene from an Indian movie. Vast Space, local language, coffee table with men talking loud - about Kids, work, family, news from Indian newspapers and websites, and the sweet smell of the Indian Curry and sambar. I decided to listen to some of them talk about stocks,employers,business et all. Sitting with my team in the cafeteria, listening to them talk,I couldn't help thinking,how racist all of us are (Sadly,so am i).


Indian 1: "That Gowda's son from Bangalore got an MS seat in this US university,I tell you its all about the money"

Indian 2: "But didn't he get an average score in that GRE entrance? My sister's daughter got a 1340"I

ndian 1: "Yeppa, that's good no..see that gowda's son got only 900 out of 1600"

Indian 2: "You know, It's all the money from his land i tell you ,His grandfather owns a quarter of the Kushalnagar near their Native place".


I was trying to make a mental calculation of all the property that my family would own....


Indian 1: "My boss - John asks for a lot of commitment to work but I am trying hard to get things done in my present assignment. But Murugan is lucky. His supervisor too is Indian and he is having a gala time "

Indian 2: "Shanmugam right? These south Indian people are so clever.They work less and ask for more holidays, they always say "Chennai ponam - En anna payankhe kaliyanum" (I have to go to Chennai - My brother's son is getting married)


Everyone laughs in unison. I wonder what are the reasons they give when they have to go to India and if anyone would believe them when their nephews and nieces get married in reality.

Indian 3: "Yes, yes, true ,it always better to take these biharis and north Indian people..They diligently work,and are satisfied with whatever they get".


Indian 1 responds : "Reddy is looking for an alliance for their son, MS in finance i think, stays in Houston,TX...expecting a Volkswagen and Apartment in dowry,you know him na.. they own a lot of land in Andhra and his Reddy's father is a MLA in the ruling party "


Well,its not surprising that some of us continue to call names reddys, gowds, iyers,iyengars and rationalize ourselves which is very unfortunate. This blog was neither meant to degrade or insult my countrymen or my country or hurt any feelings.Just an honest observation.:)

Friday, June 25, 2010

Ramdom Quotes from Strangers

Below are some facts I wish people hadn't told me about themselves or spoken. Wrote them down and finally put them together after 5 years of collecting these priceless quotes. Few come from friends, friends-of-friends, friends-of-friends-of-friends, collegues and others from overhearing what others talk in my office cafeteria. They are all real, though I wish some of them were not. My comments go in the bracket next to the sentence


1. I have learnt to eat noodles with a fork. (wonder how they ate before learning)
2. I was fat in middle school. The wake of that horror has yet to subside.
3. I keep forgetting that Barack Obama is our President. Bush is a living legend.
4. I have been pooped on by a monkey. (What if they had wings and could fly??)
5. I am addicted to sleeping at work. Sometimes I don't even notice I'm doing it. (Not surprised why the economy had slumped)
7. One of my collegues once said, "Just because I realize that Asian people are smarter and generally superior level of class does not mean I am inferior. Just that I'm racist."
8. I eat gummy bears by tearing them limb from limb and eating their heads last.
9. A friend in India said, "I can't grow hair on my arms"
10. Two of my best friends are under five feet tall and I have an intense fear of midgets.
11. I think yoga is incredibly spiritual. I know the Lord is with me in my downward dog.

12. I was born pigeon-toed.
13. A kid in a supermarket talking to his buddy says, "I was born with an extra kidney. I wish I could have sold it on the black market and made some money, but it was underdeveloped and did nothing but cause me to wet the bed until the third grade."
14. I like to tape my thumbs to my hands to see what it would be like to be a dinosaur.
15. A horse once fell over while I was riding it.
16. I don't believe in democracy.
17. Some in the Cafeteria said, 'My friends say that when they shave my back, I purr like a walrus"
18. I don't understand what people see in the Godfather trilogy but I love the Matrix Trilogy

Pursuit of Happiness starts in ME

ONE of the most precious gifts we can give ourselves and to each other is a sense of empowerment. A sense of power over yourself and immediate surroundings. We can give ourselves a beautiful world around us, to wake up rejuvenated each morning and feel on top of the world because you are in control of your day and whatever happens to you. There is a unique joy and celebration in that!
Real happiness can come only from within. No money can get us close to it. When you wake up each morning, consider if you really want to be doing what you are scheduled to do that day. If the answer is ‘no' more often than ‘yes', there is something obviously very wrong somewhere. You are not celebrating yourself or the gift of life enough.
And as the day starts, try asking yourself "are you at peace within?". Have you resolved the inherent conflict in all of us, the constant struggle between the baser and higher consciousness? Once you strike a balance within, it is easier to transfer that feeling of peace to your life as well.
When the joy of doing what you want to do suffuses your life, you will feel an extra bounce in your step and a keener power of observation, a deeper understanding of what's within and what surrounds you. It is then that you will question all that you have accepted blindly so far. You will question prevailing wisdom, bust old paradigms,challenge social conventions and assumptions. You will learn to believe in yourself and develop your own perspective on life. You will assert your own sovereignty.
Your life will be filled with love, bliss, light, inspiration and positivity. You will learn to do the unexpected, to think big, think lateral, think mosaic!
Let us together move towards higher levels of fearlessness and creativity. Let us look at life more for opportunities than constraints. Let us keep shedding limitations and keep raising the bar. Each one of us can be the CEO of his or her own life!

Saturday, June 5, 2010

Random Thoughts

What makes a man a man? A friend of mine once wondered. Is it his origins? The way he comes to life? I don't think so. It's the choices he makes. Not how he starts things, but how he decides to end them.

Monday, May 17, 2010

Gone are the Days

Gone are the days........but not the memories. Gone are the days ,When the school reopened in June, And we settled in our new desks and benches with new friends. Gone are the days, When we queued up in book depot, And got our new text books, uniforms and notes. Gone are the days, When we wanted two Sundays and no Mondays, yet Managed to line up daily for the Monday morning prayers. Gone are the days, When we chased one another in the corridors in Intervals, And returned to the classrooms drenched in sweat after a game of football during the lunch break. Gone are the days, When we had lunch in classrooms, corridors, Playgrounds, under the trees and even in cycle sheds. Gone are the days, When a single P.T. period in the week's Time Table was awaited more eagerly than the monsoons. Gone are the days, Of fights but no conspiracies, Of Competitions but seldom..
Will we ever get these bygone days back in our busy lives

Friday, April 9, 2010

The Recreational Body


“This is dedicated to a modern man”


To the woman in rural India who walks tens of kilometers every day to fetch water, the sight of the paunchy middle aged going for determined walks must seem a little absurd. What is a defining life condition for one is a self-conscious attempt to import health for another. For most of us, the walk is one of the few ways in which we exercise our bodies, used as we have become to a life which makes little demands on them.

In the absence of work, we find ways to simulate it, just to keep our bodies in running condition. Make that walking condition. We use motorized transport to travel, eschewing even the bicycle as a mode of transport. We use elevators and escalators to climb stairs, appliances to help us with our daily chores. We use hired help to take over all tasks that involve physical labor, if we can afford it. Products vie with each other to offer labor-saving conveniences and we surround ourselves with these.

Technology works hard to eliminate work- even the smallest effort that we make is hunted down and reduced. Progress means eliminating the effort we made to kick start our motorcycles and dial a telephone. The idea of the ‘automatic’ is that of the self-fulfilling; a condition which allows us to not only eliminate all effort itself, but even the very thought of it. The automatic watch rids us of the need to wind it, the automatic washing machine of the need to transfer clothes from the tub to the dryer & the automatic transmission allows us the great facility of not having to change gears manually.

It is easy for us to forget that our bodies are machines that transform energy into work. In the earlier days, our bodies were our primary instruments in our quest for staying alive. We hunted, walked, ran, grew food, cooked and cleaned. In general, we kept the wheels of life moving through the motive force of our bodies. With time, technology and with surplus, it was possible for us to increasingly delegate work to others, be it animals, machines or other people.

Today, for a section of the world, our bodies serve little useful purpose; these are increasingly instruments of recreation. We use our bodies when we want to & not when we need to. Societies with surpluses become increasingly drawn to sport; the body gets utilized in a manner that gives millions of spectators’ pleasure. Sport is an ‘empty’ way of using our bodies- by definition no sport is meant to serve any utilitarian purpose. Sport allows us to expend our energies in a symbolic quest for perfection & swell bank accounts. The most exercise a child in a large city is likely to get is in sport (carrying their bags to school) & has no other avenues for physical exertion.

In keeping with the recreational role of the body, the role assigned to food too has changed. Food is much more than the fuel that keeps us going; we look to be lavished with new & more exotic toasts to our taste buds. The notion of cuisines; the idea that food is something to experiment with, is a relatively new one. Every meal now is a culinary adventure & nothing is more annoying for the modern family than predictable, routine food. Today’s housewife needs to be able to constantly surprise & delight her demanding family with newer dishes & recipes.

With so much emphasis on personal attractiveness, and such little real use that we put our bodies to, the body has become an end in itself. As pointed out by a social scientist, the body today is seen as a project that is in the process of becoming. It needs to be fashioned by diets, exercises and products. We ‘work out’- having exhausted the need to do real work, we ‘burn’ calories, we ‘build’ muscles in desired parts of the body and voluntarily go on the ‘tread-mill’ to make our bodies a work of art. In everything we do, we simulate real work, only this time to construct a version of ourselves that we are happy to see in the mirror.

As we move from the mechanical era of physical machines to the digital era of computers, we are freeing up yet another part of our bodies for recreation. The mind, which hitherto was completely occupied so far in our quest to build a good life for ourselves, is increasingly being freed up to pursue its own interests.

Computers process information at a rate human mind can barely comprehend. In the land of the whites, a new generation is reaching adulthood not knowing how to make arithmetical calculations mentally. As computers start doing more of the ‘real’ work, our minds will seek more avenues for pleasure. Already, the most exciting developments in the digital world are linked to communication and entertainment. Whether it is I-pad or gaming or blogging, we are finding more and more recreational uses for what was to begin with a computing machine for businesses and technology transfer. From a time when we lived through our bodies “unselfconsciously”, today we are increasingly living for our bodies. The body is what we pay obeisance to; all its needs have become paramount. The body is the passive recipient of new forms of stimulation. Our body today is a hobby, to be pursued for pleasure or to be perfected to gain admiration from others. To be affluent in today’s world is to pander to the body; to be poor to have to depend on it. When we don’t have too much work, no wonder we need to work out!

Intellectual Interactions

Delving into the depths of another mind can be both interesting and adventurous. Similar minds attract while unlike ones captivate...
Quite often, we find a person eye-catching or gorgeous. But how many times do we find another person mentally stimulating? Like a good book or a movie, how many times does another leave us with thoughts to mull over, questions to answer and yet more questions to ask?
Do you wait eagerly for the next meeting of minds with someone? How often does someone excite the mind rather than just the body or emotions?
You may grow used to the sheer physical beauty of your loved one; grow out of a visual attraction or even get used to their kindness, warmth or niceties and start taking these for granted. But there is one thing that can neither be taken for granted, nor is a trait you could get used to or grow out of. This is the stimulating power of another mind, the uncanny intricacies of the mind that attract and enrapture you.
This is the one quality that doesn't come with an expiry date.
As a young boy, along with other friends, I enjoyed reading Hardy Boys, the Three Investigators and Tintin, not for the adventure but for the sheer joy of reading and trying to picture myself to be part of them with the main characters.
The almost-always petite, fiery haired Tintin and the tall, arrogant, Hardy Boys always would hold me enthralled and for me, these became the definition of boyhood heroes.
We are always interested in the working of an unusual mind. Those who are predictable get boring after a while. It's the minds that are able to think differently, think out of the box, come up with new, creative ideas and keep destroying to rebuild again, that are really worth interacting with.
Whenever a problem is brought up, almost everybody tries to offer quick, easy and commonplace solutions. And then there may be that one person who will think different. And come up with a solution that's unusual and path breaking. That's the mind that operates a notch or two deeper than others.
You may talk to many people during the course of a day. And yet there may be the one whose conversation had the ability to make you sit up and take notice; the one who’s thinking process and mind not just interested, but challenged you. That is the mind and the conversation that stays with you, the one that you will seek out again and again. The one you will have a mind affair with.
A mind affair that is quite different from a physical affair. Delving into the depths of another mind can be more interesting and adventurous than anything else in the world. While a similar thinking process and similar thoughts can be attractive and reassuring, what can be mesmerizing is a different mind that challenges your understanding and the working of your own mind. It is not necessary that the mind you relate to would be attractive to another as well.
Criminal minds all share a common mind-set that is disturbingly different from the average mind-set. Such proclivity towards a criminal mind is evident from childhood. The very strangeness and dangerous quality of this mind holds a different type of fascination for us and we find studies, books and movies made around the study of such a mind extremely engaging.
And then there is the realm of mind games, games that highly intelligent minds play to control the minds of those lesser than themselves or those emotionally dependent on them. Such intelligent, but complicated minds can be highly dangerous and are usually associated with people who have a high IQ level. You wouldn't even realize and somebody close to you could be controlling your every thought, every action and emotion. And deriving a great contentment from it!
It's almost like playing a game, like posing a challenge to one. Such a mind often veers towards obsessive and it can be very difficult to disengage from such a person who almost takes you over mentally.
Also consider the twists and turns of the corporate mind, the ability to survive highly politicized situations and stay afloat with sheer power of mind. This can be a unique aphrodisiac when you win the games and the worst depressant when you lose some! It's a game of one upmanship. Such games can be dangerous for the uninitiated, though they are a deadly battle of survival that takes place every day, all the time, just beneath the sophisticated, smooth-seeming veneers of most organizations, at the higher levels.
The beauty of finding a person whose mind appeals to you is that he/she keeps you fully engaged and in a state of perpetual stimulation. The effect can be a highly positive one if you do not allow yourself to be completely overshadowed but rather focus on enjoying the magnificence and intricacies of such a lively interaction and taking inspiration from it to build your own mind and grow to a higher level together...